• daniellesroaring20s

You can dream it and you can do it, but don't forget to live it.

Updated: Jan 31

The Eiffel Tower, October, 2018

Hi friends! This is my first blog post, which is very exciting.

Let's go back in time to 6-year-old me. My babysitter had given me a gift from her travels, and it was none other than a mini Eiffel Tower. An average child would probably display it mindlessly and forget about it or toss it to the side. But the ultimate idealist and dreamer I was, and will forever be, displayed it for all to see.

And there I was, 6-years-old, already dreaming of seeing the Eiffel Tower. The real Eiffel Tower had become a figment of my imagination in the form of a mini one sitting atop my desk. It became a symbol of the future. A symbol of my aspirations- knowing that some day I would see the real thing.

Going to see the Eiffel Tower might just be another adventure among the many, but it stood out because it symbolized one thing I had learned over the years, that dreaming and doing are two very different things. And that we are constantly searching for the next big thing- the next experience that will stir our hearts and open our eyes.

So you're probably wondering, what was I feeling in the moment I saw the Eiffel tower?

It was a mix of emotions really. It felt like for once, I had seen a figment of a dream come true- it was tangible, and I had made it. Even though all it took was a plane ticket, and I didn't really accomplish much, I felt accomplished looking up at the sparkling masterpiece. I felt accomplished because I had dreamed of this moment, and it came true.

But it also felt a little defeating, because I knew that I dreamed of this moment, and there it was, and all I wished for was to grab it and never let go. But it became a moment that passed. Yet, those feelings still flutter back each time I close my eyes and picture the Eiffel Tower before my eyes.

But it feels different now, when I think about the Eiffel Tower. It's no longer something I wish for or dream of. I had already reached that goal,

So what next? This is the question that constantly plagues me.

For instance, I've travelled to places I couldn't imagine- stepped on the streets of Barcelona, rode the London Eye, stood in the Colosseum, and of course, saw the Eiffel Tower. But with each experience, I crave more, and each becomes a memory. And sometimes I get lost in it all. One trip gone, and the next to look forward to. That's the problem that plagues a traveller. That with each destination, a traveller's thirst for adventure consumes them, and soon, they find themselves dreaming as much as they are doing.

The anticipation tends to be almost as exciting as the current moment. It's so difficult when we fail to live in the moment. We're always searching for the next thing. And I've always been like this too- always believing that it's best to have an experience to look forward to. But when it's over, it's over- all you have are the memories, photos, videos.

Whenever I go to an amazing concert, I always feel what I like to call, "post concert depression." That sinking feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you know some of the best moments you just experienced are gone.

But what I learned is that we shouldn't look at our experiences so bleakly. That we should be excited they happened, and not jump to planning the next big moment. We should relish in the fact that we did do that, saw that, lived that, or whatever it may be.

So don't quit your day dreams, but don't quit the present either. I will forever be grateful for seeing the Eiffel Tower, and my 6-year-old self wouldn't have imagined it'd happen just at the ripe age of 20. But that's what so beautiful about experiences, and the best are unforeseen.